Free to be you and me

I read a wonderful blog post by Mel Wells in which she said that dissatisfaction in our lives actually comes from a desire for the freedom to be exactly who we are.  I found it really poignant, and it struck a chord with me.

“The reason most of us aren’t satisfied is not that we’re not grateful for what we already have – it’s that we don’t feel free enough to be ourselves. We feel some degree of trapped – in our bodies, in our relationships, in our jobs, in our locations.

Look at where you feel any degree of trapped – this is where you most crave your freedom. Freedom to be more YOU.” – Mel Wells, Why Aren’t You Satisfied?

Complete authenticity is something that I am striving for in my life. It isn’t always easy when you lack confidence and feel that you might be rejected for who you are, but complete authenticity only comes from feeling free to be exactly who you are.  You don’t try to fit into others expectations, you don’t try to make yourself acceptable, or change yourself to be in with the trends.

Who can give you that freedom? You, of course! You are the one who is in true control of your life, and you can decide who you want to be, what you want to wear, how you want to look and what you want to do.  With that kind of freedom comes inner peace.

It takes courage to be authentic, but how wonderfully liberating it is! Freedom doesn’t come from achieving the “right weight” or the highest salary.  Freedom isn’t tied to anything external from you.

People may misunderstand and even judge you for who you are, but I am coming to realise that if you aren’t being authentic you can’t be truly happy.  We all feel the pressure to live, act and look a certain way; but if you aren’t happy, what is the point?

“The world will be set free by women who are free.” – Nisha Moodley

I realised a while back that one of the reasons I was dissatisfied in my job was because I felt it didn’t give me room to act or express myself in a completely authentic way. Feeling like I had to keep certain parts of me hidden in order to fit in with the conventional viewpoints held within standard education left me feeling frustrated and unhappy.

Reading Mel Wells’ blog post has made me think about where else in my life I may feel I can’t be authentically myself – friendships, relationships, my appearance? It is definitely food for thought! And it is my thoughts that will have to be reframed, because I am the one who holds the key to my freedom.  I have to choose authenticity in every aspect and every moment of my life.

I allow myself to be free, and my true self to come forth. I invite you to do the same!

Much love,


P.S. – Read my review of Mel Wells’ book The Goddess Revolution here. xoxo


Published by Alexandra Payne

Wonder-seeking wanderer sharing my unfolding journey of living life consciously.

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