Body Love


Mt Iron, Wanaka, New Zealand


Arriving in Queensland, Australia to visit my family a couple of weeks ago, I had the unexpected treat of attending a talk by Taryn Brumfitt, founder of the Body Image Movement.  Although she is a well-known campaigner, writer and speaker, I had not heard of Taryn Brumfitt before that night, though I ended up being very moved by her.

To a room full of women, school girls and the odd gentleman, Taryn spoke of her personal hate-to-love relationship with her body.  She talked about how she came to fully appreciate her body for exactly what it is – a beautiful, sacred vehicle for experiencing life – and overcame her fixation with conforming to the “standard” “acceptable” body type. In turn, she has devoted her life to helping others reach the same level of self-love and appreciation, and happiness.

If you want to find out more about Taryn and the Body Image Movement, click here.  For now I just want to talk a little bit about my own journey towards fully loving my body.  After listening to Taryn talk, I considered my own insecurities and the negative talk I have often directed at myself. I realised how incredible my body actually is, and how foolish it is for me to criticize her.

For example, although I struggle with recurring issues with my legs due to hypermobility in one ankle (causing my leg muscles and joints to come out of alignment), my body is still strong and amazing.  She got me to New Zealand, hiking up volcanoes and small mountains! The picture above is of me near the summit of Mt Iron in Wanaka, New Zealand.  Mt Iron is small compared to a lot of the other peaks, but it was still a triumph for me to get to the top! My legs, though not lithe and toned like a supermodel, got me there! They got me to the top so that I could experience that stunning view, feel powerful after the climb and have the fantastic memories of it for the rest of my life.

I need to work on my fitness so that my body can be as strong as possible, but I won’t fall into the trap of punishing my body or berating it in order to fit in to some physical ideal defined by someone else.  Life is too short and too precious to spend any time dissing yourself.  Be strong and be healthy, but do it with complete and all-encompassing love for yourself.  Move for the joy of it.  Climb a damn mountain and exult in how amazing, strong and fierce your body is to get you there.  That is what your body is there for.  It isn’t just an aesthetic shell to be made to look pretty.

Self-love is the MAIN ingredient needed to take true care of your temple.  Happy heart leads to a happy mind, which leads to a happy body.

I am currently doing mirror work, looking myself in the eye and reciting positive affirmations each day, recalibrating how I think about myself.  So far, this feels wonderful.  I will write more about this self-healing experience later.  For now, if you feel you need some inspiration to start loving yourself and your body, I suggest Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life, Mel Wells’ The Goddess Revolution and Cameron Diaz’s The Body Book. (Click the title to take you to Amazon, and also read my review of The Goddess Revolution here).

Peace and love – celebrate yourself!



Published by Alexandra Payne

Wonder-seeking wanderer sharing my unfolding journey of living life consciously.

6 thoughts on “Body Love

  1. Well said Al! I struggled with body image issues and disordered eating during my late teens & twenties. And, to be totally honest, it’s only becoming a mum and feeling overwhelming grateful to my body for giving me Noah that’s helped me stop punishing my body and start loving it. We need more women like you around lighting the way to body positivity and self love for our daughters (and sons!). Keep up the good work, you’re setting a great example! Hope you’re still having a good time on your amazing adventures! Xxx

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    1. Thanks Han! I applaud you for being so brave and honest about – and appreciative of – your body after you’d just had Noah. And he’s such a cutie, we all have to be in awe of what your body did to create him! I am so glad that I am finally reaching a point where what I think about myself really does matter more to me than what other people think. Self-love all the way! xxx


  2. Thank you for sharing something so personal. We all need a little more self love, and I especially love what you wrote “Happy heart leads to a happy mind, which leads to a happy body.” It is hard to love one self sometimes especially in difficult stages of your life (personally, my whole teens and early 20s), and it took me a long time to get to that point as well. Thanks for spreading the love 🙂 I will check out that Body Image Movement.

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    1. I’m so glad you liked it 🙂 It is so true that everything comes back to how much you love yourself. It is the foundation for every other thought, feeling and action. I am so glad I have reached an age where I can start to understand and appreciate that. I hope you also find some inspiration in the Body Image Movement! xoxo

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  3. Very well said!! Most of us fall into the trap of defining ourselves by someone else’s yardstick. Each one of us is unique in our own way and the sooner one appreciates and accepts, and loves it, the happier we’ĺl be!

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    1. Exactly! I am so glad that I am feeling more peaceful about myself – not only peaceful, but actively happy with who I am. It makes all the negativity I felt seem so pointless. I hope everyone gets to the point of truly loving themselves. Xoxo

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